I am a creature of habit. I love my routine. I check my e-mail at 6:40 every morning, have my first cup of coffee while the boys eat breakfast, leave the house at 8:05 every day, and drive the same way to drop the boys off. And, I blog every thursday.
How boring. How rote. How expected. Oh, but it makes me so happy. To have everything lined up in a row. To have the lunches made up just the right way. To have all the clothes folded proper. According to me….
And, that’s the rub, right? It’s about control. It’s about doing things the right way. It’s about being in charge. And, you must admit, life does run smoother when there’s a plan, and when there’s rules to follow.
But, life shakes things up a bit. Life throws you curveballs. Sometimes big changes, sometimes small. But the world wants chaos, no matter how we try to order it. And the more we order it, the more nature fights back. The traffic jams, and the unexpected meetings, and the little illnesses that throw you on your ass.
What if you lean into the curve. Embrace the chaos. Let go of the reins for a while and enjoy the ride. Just a bit. You might get lost cleaning your yard for three hours on a saturday afternoon, and might just throw on some clothes and go out to drinks with some great friends, and hit balls on the baseball diamond with your favorite guys.
What’s the worse that could happen? You might have a relaxing weekend, one without e-mails and messages. You might get some unexpected things done, things that you’ve been dying to do for months. Your children might learn that there’s no “right” way to do get stuff done, and no “right” time do the things you love.
And, amazingly, all the things that are waiting to get done will still get done. And all the important things on your “to do” list will still be there when you get to them. And all the people who “need” you will still be waiting on monday.
And, maybe, you might just learn something new. The world doesn’t stop spinning just because your calendar gets put aside. Spontaneity, is a learned behavior, and your children are watching. Responsibilities that weigh you down are often not quite as heavy as they might seem. A little bit of shaking it up is good for your soul. And, it might give you the much needed restart you didn’t know you needed.